The big decision

I’ve talked about my big vacation a lot on here. I need to think about it all the time so I can stay excited for something. The big plan is to enjoy our trip and then come home and get right to work on making a baby. Our trip is from September 2nd to September 12th.

M told me last night that he will probably have to go on a work trip from the 13th to the 19th of September. He doesn’t want to do go for normal reasons – we’ll get home from Scotland on the afternoon of the 12th and then he’ll leave for Hawaii* on the morning of the 13th. That is a lot of jet lag. He works with two other guys who could go on the trip, but one of them is already scheduled for a trip that week and the other will be a brand new dad (his wife is due this week) and shouldn’t be away for a whole week.

So, it looks like M will be gone over those critical few days. I’m disappointed. I’ve really been looking forward to getting back on the roller coaster. Missing our try in September means we’ll only have once chance to get pregnant before November. Waking up on November 13th wouldn’t seem so bleak with a baby on the way.

I’ve been thinking for the last week or two that maybe starting a little early would be ok. I could substitute this cycle for the try in September. If it doesn’t work, I could easily convince myself that it wouldn’t have worked in September, either.

Let’s make a list.

Trying in August – Pros
1. A May baby! Perfect weather!
2. Taking a pregnancy test in Europe. Is the positive line on the wrong side over there?
3. Congratulations! Ye ur expectin' a wee bairn in th' sprin'!
4. All the excitement will distract me from POAS addiction.
5. A picture of a positive test on a kilt!
6. If it’s not positive, I will still feel better about not trying in September.
7. Making M mad by telling him we can only choose between Nessie and Wallace for names.
8. Great excuse for not having to try all the beers and scotch and new foods.


Trying in August – Cons
1. I will have the real possibility of losing a pregnancy on the vacation that is supposed to make me feel better about losing two pregnancies.
2. 5 weeks and 3 days falls while M will be on his trip.
3. 14 weeks falls on November 9th, 4 days before my November due date.
4. M is a planner and doesn’t like when I change my mind (and I do that a lot).
5. If I don’t get pregnant, I might feel worse when the September due date arrives.
6. I won’t be able to hide all the POAS I like to do. We’ll be in tiny B&Bs. M might discover how crazy I am.
7. Will customs pull me aside because of all the tests I will take with me (and then all the ones I hope to bring back)?
8. We’ll be at a friend’s vacation house during the critical days in August. I’m kind of a prude and I’m a little afraid of doing that at someone else’s house!
9. Not getting to taste all the wines and beers and scotch.

Those seem about even. I guess I’ll bring it up tonight and see what M thinks. He was disappointed last night when I told him that his trip conflicted with the baby making plans. Maybe he’d be up for a little try.

I’ve spent the morning working researching prednisone (steroids for poison ivy) and the effects on TTC. I don’t want to risk deformities just because I can’t wait 26 more days. Turns out, some REs prescribe prednisone before ovulation to help with implantation. Is that a sign? I’m finished with the pills at the end of next week.

Side note – Preseason football sucks… but it’s better than no football! Hail to the Redskins!

*Awww…. Poor guy… his second trip to Hawaii for work in a year…